Every child in one way or the other is unique in his/her own way. Most times, they receive negative feedback from their parents and teachers. It is however key to note that some comments from you as a teacher or parent may kill the dreams of these innocent children.
You need to revive the dreams of our children rather than demoralizing them. Comments such as fool, idiot, you don’t know anything, so this simple thing you can’t comprehend, you’re a failure and many more related comments do discourage them. However, to throw more light on the topic under discussion, the following are some ways a child’s dream may be shattered or excites the child:
Punishing, rather than disciplining
Actually, children need to learn that some actions lead to serious consequences but there is a vast difference between discipline and punishment. However, children who are disciplined think, “I made a bad choice” whereas Kids who are punished think, “I’m a bad person.”
Fast forward, discipline encourages your child to be confident by making them smarter, opting for healthier choices in the future. Punishment on the other hand makes them think they are incapable of doing any better.
Higher expectations from the child are healthy, but too much expectations have its consequences. The moment children perceive that expectations are too high; they might not even bother trying or they might feel as though they will never measure up.
Instead, this can be corrected by giving them clear expectations for the long-term and set milestones along the way. For example, going to the university is a long-term expectation, therefore, help them create short-term goals along the way such as helping them to get good grades, do their homework, and do some reading.
Protecting them from their emotions
It is alluring to calm them down when they are angry or cheer your kids up when they are sad. But how most parents do ignore this as an emotional responsibility. The way and manner parents and teachers react to kids’ emotions has a very big impact on the development of their self-esteem and emotional intelligence. The best teachers and parents can do to support these kids is to help them to identify what triggers their emotions and guide them on how to self-regulate. Also, they can be provided with a framework that helps explain how they feel to enable them have an easier time dealing with those emotions in a socially appropriate way in the near future.
It is tough for most parents and guardians to watch their children fail, get rejected or mess up on something. In such circumstance, so many parents rush in to save kids before they fall. But a hidden fact most of these parents have not realized is that preventing them from making mistakes deny them of the opportunity to learn how to bounce back.
Whether your child forgets their boots before a big soccer game or gets a few questions wrong on their integrated science quiz, don’t forget that mistakes can be life’s greatest teacher. Each mistake made is an opportunity for them to build the mental strength and develop the moral they need to do better next time.
Letting them escape responsibility
Most parents think chores will weigh their kids down and add to their stress level but it is advisable to note that pitching in around the house will help them become more responsible citizens.
Doing age-appropriate duties helps children have a sense of mastery and accomplishment. So it is very advisable to let tell your child to help with the laundry or take the trash out sinceresponsibilities are opportunities for kids to see themselves as capable and competent.